I Like Wedding Shows. Deal With It.

Audrey Hepburn Wedding

I love wedding shows. I do. (Pun completely intended cheesy though it may be).  And for years and years I’ve been too afraid to admit this to anyone other than Grace and Kate for fear of being mercilessly mocked or viewed as pathetic. You see, whenever a single gal admits to loving wedding shows or wedding related things you get a variation of five reactions.

  1. Oh that poor girl, single and so desperate to be married. How very sad.
  2. Pathetic. What a weak woman, she should be basking in her independent glory, not pining after patriarchal bullshit.
  3. Starved for love much? Hahahaha! You’re desperate to get married but you’re all alone! Hahahahaha!
  4. That is so sad. She doesn’t even have a marriage prospect, why is she torturing herself watching wedding shows? Clearly she’s an emotional masochist.
  5. Yuck. Just another girl who thinks her life begins and ends with a wedding and marriage.  Pitiful.

Did I mention all five of these reactions come complete with patronizing looks? Because those are the best. I’ve avoided admitting my deep love of wedding shows for fear of those reactions and looks. At least, I did avoid it until I realized recently I absolutely did not give a shit if people thought those things about me. I’m allowed to like whatever I like and I like wedding shows. They are full of pretty dresses, lovely flowers, wonderful lighting, romance, and delicious looking food. I like all of those things, a lot.

And for the record, I’m not desperate to get married, I do bask in my independence, I’m not starved for love (although I am starved for French fries), watching these shows doesn’t torture me in any way, and I have a very full and incredibly happy life. Capisce?

I just love wedding shows. They are fun and light and sometimes, especially after a long work week, that’s all I want. One of my favorite shows is Four Weddings in which four different brides attend each other’s weddings and then rate them; the winning wedding wins the couple a free honeymoon. It’s awesome.  Sometimes the brides are all bitchy and judgy and then other times they’re quite sweet and genuinely excited to attend the other weddings. Again, it’s awesome. The show is really fun and I love seeing other people’s idea of a perfect wedding, and I love judging others weddings from the comfort of my couch while I’m binge eating tacos and not wearing pants. This is my moment of bliss after long and usually stressful work weeks.   And I’m not ashamed of it anymore. (Except for the binge eating tacos part, don’t tell anyone about that).

I don’t see how what I watch on television reflects what I want in my life. I also like to watch Criminal Minds, that doesn’t mean I’m desperate to be a serial killer. And hey, I really like Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives, but it doesn’t mean that I want to open a restaurant. And my eternal devotion to ER doesn’t mean I want to be a doctor or a patient. Just so, my love of Four Weddings doesn’t mean I’m desperate to have a wedding. It’s television. That’s all. It entertains me while I sit around my apartment not wearing pants.

I’m a gal who likes to watch, among many other things, wedding shows. I like what I like. Deal with it naysayers.


24 thoughts on “I Like Wedding Shows. Deal With It.

  1. Ha, well-said, Mae! I personally wouldn’t go anywhere near a wedding show if I can help it at all, mainly because, in my opinion, ‘perfect’ weddings nowadays seem to be just a ginormous display of how much money people are willing (not: able) to spend.
    That doesn’t mean, though, that I would belittle, berate or patronise you for liking them. Especially since you are doing it in the privacy of your own home and don’t force me to watch them with you. It’s called freedom of opinion, nobody’s business and anyway, get out of my hair.
    Incidentally, I like science fiction and I don’t even bother claiming the ‘science’ bit is the important bit here anymore. You go watch what you like, girl, I got your back!

  2. I love the wedding show too! And what’s even funnier is that I have never really pictured my own wedding, and watching these shows does not make me want to get married any more or any less. I definitely can picture myself married one day (maybe, that’s still a bit debateable too) but the wedding part really hasn’t mattered much to me.

    I too find it a great way to spend a Friday night when I would rather be no where else but my couch!

    • Yay! It’s nice to know I’m not alone in loving wedding shows but not being desperate to get married. See? I knew there were more of us out there!

  3. I totally agree. 31, single, one day want to be married, but not desperate for it to happen. I’d rather wait to find the right guy vs. marry an idiot that I’m stuck with. But – not only do I love watching the bridal shows…I WORK IN WEDDINGS. Which means I’m at wedding shows ALL the time. Which I LOVE. But. When I admit that, I get one of those 5 reactions. Meh. Let ’em react 🙂

    • Exactly! You have the added justification of it being your job but you don’t need any justification other than “Hey. I like them.” Enough said. 🙂

  4. I am right there with ya! One of my favorite guilty pleasures is Say Yes to the Dress. And I have gotten my fair share of patronizing looks & comments for admitting it. I guess they think I just watch it and am so sad because it’s not me… they could not be more wrong. I’m thinking WTH?! Who spends $20,000 on a dress?! It’s like a train wreck and I just can’t help myself 🙂

  5. What are your thoughts on Bridezillas? Honestly, that show is about the same quality as any trashy reality show…except BETTER.

    Forget the haters! Watch your shows. I’ll be watching them with you!

    • I’ve only seen a few episodes but I think my thoughts are mostly “Oh my…did that just…no way…but….this is awful awesome!”

    • I love that show too! They show it on BBC America and every time it’s on I either watch it immediately or record or for later. I can’t miss it!

  6. I can completely relate, Mae. I am a single lady in my mid-to-late twenties and I love all things wedding (my personal guilty pleasure is looking at wedding photography blogs). I hope a marriage is in the cards for me one day in the future, but I am by no means desperate or rushing for a wedding. I worked in a bridal boutique for 6 years while I was in school, for the most part I LOVED my job and “my” brides. But I often fell victim to the patronizing bride or mother that would give me one of the 5 looks that you speak of. After one of these brides found out I was single she cocked her head, gently touched my arm, gave me a sad puppy dog eyes and said: “It must be so depressing for you to work here. You know, if you just tanned a bit and lost like 10 pounds you would find a boyfriend in no time!” I couldn’t believe it! It’s amazing how people take such pity on spinsters. I happen to think we are all pretty great! Keep watching your shows and eating your tacos and I will keep looking at my wedding photography blogs with a bowl of ice cream.

  7. I now have to go find that “Four Weddings” show. It sounds like something I would love! I’m young, single, not desperate to get married, and I love wedding shows as well. For all the reasons you stated and maybe a couple more. 🙂 “Say Yes to the Dress” is one my best friend and her mother consistently watch, although they have the excuse that her mother worked for a bridal company for years.

    • I love Say Yes To The Dress too! And I don’t need any excuses other than “Hey, I like that.” You should definitely give Four Weddings a watch, it comes on on Fridays either before or after Say Yes To The Dress. Let me know what you think of it.

  8. Like you, I’m a single girl who’s been known to watch a little bit of Four Weddings and Bridezillas every now and then. You know why? It’s trash TV. Some times my brain needs to wind down, come off of all the Breaking Bad and Damages and Man Men that I love to watch and watch some trash.

    I also have a hankering for America’s Next Top Model but I pretty much loathe everything about fashion. And yet… it’s my crack.

  9. I Love wedding shows but find myself quickly changing the channel when a friend comes over to my place… Seeing all of my friends are married or engaged I never wanted to be “that girl”. By the way, did you watch Will and Kate get married?

  10. I love watching Four Weddings too. I thought I was the only single girl who enjoys watching wedding shows..There’s a long list actually. Say Yes to the dress, A wedding story, Master of reception etc..I just love to watch these shows and fantasize about my dream wedding. After a long day at work, my brain gets tired too and I just wanna sit on my couch, eat chocolate and fantasize..Just like watching Disney movies and pretending to be princesses when we were kids..We do the same when we grow up by watching wedding shows..:P

    • Hmmm, I like your comparison to watching Disney movies when we’re kids. I think there is something psychological there….but yeah….I’m probably not going to delve into that. 😉

  11. I too, am a wedding show fanatic. Four Weddings, My Fair Wedding with David Tutera, Say Yes to the Dress (which includes Say Yes to The Dress: Atlanta and Say Yes to the Dress: Big Bliss), I’ll even watch Bridezilla’s if I’m desperate. I love love love it.

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